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31 things to try when you are trying to get out of comfort zone

by with One Comment Life Changing SkillsPersonality DevelopmentSuccess Mindset

In the post “Don’t Get Comfortable, Embrace Changes !!” I have told you about how you should not get too comfortable in life to develop your condition. 

This post is an extension of that and here I will tell you about 31 different ideas to avoid getting comfortable. 

So, try these out.

An easy way to get out of your comfort zone is to try something new every day; basically, here you are being consistent with adopting changes.

It will be better if you try something you are afraid to do or if it is harder for you to do.

Here are 31 ideas to start with to avoid getting comfortable:

  1. Talk with a stranger.
  2. Give a presentation in front of your class/team.
  3. Make a song video and post on social media.
  4. Dance in the metro station.
  5. Dance inside the metro or bus.
  6. Sing loudly in public places (if someone gives you money, feel free to take it).
  7. Ride escalators or lift alone (many people are afraid of these).
  8. Visit a hospital full of terminally ill patients
  9. Open the zoom camera in meetings
  10. Take a new route to reach home from office
  11. Have a raunchy chat with your partner (with consent)
  12. Try a difficult sex position (one detailed blog will be on blogsutram.com)
  13. Tell a romantic joke to your crush
  14. Eat lunch alone if you eat with others
  15. Eat lunch with others if you eat alone
  16. Tell your mother that you love her
  17. Donate to anyone in need
  18. Take funny photos of yourself
  19. Give food to a street dog or cat
  20. Ask someone out who is out of your league (you might be surprised)
  21. Give compliment to someone you don’t like
  22. Apply for high-level jobs where you already know that you won’t be selected
  23. Cuss at someone who deserves it
  24. Buy your siblings something without telling them
  25. Try a new hair style
  26. Don’t complaint for a whole day
  27. Don’t shout for a whole day
  28. Do a vlog, say anything and upload on social media
  29. Take nude pictures of yourself (not necessary to send someone, unless you want to)
  30. Read a book from an unfamiliar genre
  31. Sleep under a blanket, without any clothes on
  32. Make tea for your parents and surprise them

31 things to try when you are trying to get out of comfort zone

These are some ideas I have for you to start with. After that you’ll figure out what challenge you would like to face. 

 

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Don’t Get Comfortable, Embrace Changes !!

by with One Comment Life Changing SkillsPersonality DevelopmentSuccess Mindset

Not getting comfortable

One important thing in life is ‘Change’. It is also the only constant thing in life.

When I was in school, I read a poem. I forgot the exact poem but I remember the meaning; it said that when a water-body is stagnant, algae and moss take over it and the water becomes unclean, unusable.

On the other hand, the river that flows, gives us clean water.

What’s the link between consistency and comfortability?

When you are constant, and living in your comfort zone, you are getting rusty.

Now, you might try to screw me by saying that in the last chapter I told you that you need to be consistent.

Right, I told you to be consistent. But I also told you to try out different processes. And consistency does not mean you are stagnant. I told you to improve 1% daily to achieve the same vision.

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Why can you actually never be comfortable for the long-term?

The actual truth is, even if you find a consistent way and achieve growth, that WILL BE TEMPORARY. You MUST change the way at some point of time. This is because trends change with time.

A good example can be the YouTube algorithm. 3-4 years ago, a lot of tech channels emerged on the platform and YouTube suggested phone reviews, tech reviews, software tutorials to everyone.

Those youtubers’ followers, revenue, profit kept increasing. Some people also misused this trend to mislead people.

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But now, the algorithm has changed based on people’s choice. The old tech channels hardly get any views now. The so-called tech-gurus are struggling to find new topics that will help them rank again.

The trend has changed, and it will keep changing based on people’s choice.

When I started going to gym in 2018, I started with maybe 10 kgs of dumbbells (5+5). Then covid hit and gyms closed in 2020. At that time, I was using 16 kgs (8+8), deadlifting with 55 kgs and doing leg-press with 70-80 kgs.

I levelled up that game. To let you know, I am light-weight, under 55 kgs and if I continued, I would have tried to increase the weight more.

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So, you need to accept this. Even if you are consistent with your goals, you need to change the ways from time to time to get better results.

How to NOT get comfortable?

One way to not get comfortable is to know that you are miserable.

There are new trends these days…. People claiming that have apathy towards success, they are influenced by the principles of Stoicism when it comes to self-improvement etc etc. Well, if you are apathetic about it, you are pathetic. Slap yourself.

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How can you not seek improvement? How can you not ask for more from life? Ask yourself.

One simple way to not get comfortable is to be angry. Be angry at yourself. Don’t blame it on others, don’t blame it on GOD at all. Rather, be happy for others’ success and take inspiration from them. Have faith in God.

pressure and comfort

Comfort is the enemy of pressure

Pressure is the opposite of comfort.

Without pressure, coal does not turn into diamond.

Without beating, raw metals don’t get shaped.

Without pressure, you won’t achieve success.

Pressure can be of any form- it can be your mother nagging you to get a better job.

It can be your husband asking for better sexual actions at night.

It can be your boss demanding you to clear a certification so that you both can get promotions.

It can be your audience asking you to upload contents more frequently on your social media.

In all these cases, you are asked to get out of your comfort zones.

 

Why do people ask you to be comfortable?

Actually, only your enemies will ask you to be comfortable with life. They want to see you sit on your hands, lose everything and be miserable.

And they are right on their point. They are not supposed to make you a success blueprint. You should identify and engage enmity. Lord Rama is respected because he had an enemy like Raavan.

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Another category of people who will ask you to stay comfortable with life are people who themselves could not achieve much. Their lives are stagnant and their world is similar to the frog that lives inside a well. When that frog looks up, it sees a tiny piece of sky and assumes that that is the whole world.

Theory of abundance

You need to get out of your comfort zone.

Because only then you can achieve a success mindset,

Only then you will know that life can give you anything, unlimitedly.

This is called the theory of ABUNDANCE. I will tell more about this in the next chapters. 

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Be it love, success or money, you can get it unlimitedly; and you need to believe that.

Get angry at yourself. Look at someone successful and tell yourself “Why am I not successful like that person”

“Why don’t I have a jacuzzi?”

“Why don’t I have a castle?

“Why doesn’t my business have 1 trillion $ in my bank like that other company?”

When you ask yourself, you will get the possible answer. Because you know yourself better than others. Later, I will tell you how you can channel anger.

As per Japanese folklore, a person has 3 faces. One for strangers, one for dear ones, one for oneself.

You, yourself, know the reasons. And you can change the scenario too. 

 

How can you get motivated to not get comfortable?

Sometimes, you will get the initial inspirations from external sources too… your family, lover, so-called relatives, friends in disguise or even strangers. You need to work on that rather than avoiding it.

If you ask questions to yourself about how to improve your situation, you will get at least some hints or the full answer.

The reason why you know answers to those ‘how and why’ is because you are a tiny god.

You are a part of the almighty. God can do anything. You can do a lot of things too; you just don’t know it.

WAKE UP…. From your comfort zone.

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Sometimes, you need to look back to get motivation. No matter how bad your life has been, you must have had some positive moments.

You know how success tastes. Stand up once again to taste it again.

 

Check out my list of- 31 things to try when you are trying to get out of comfort zone

 

Why does trying out new things work?

Trying out new things boosts your adrenaline and makes you more confident. As per psychologist Jordan Peterson, for men, it increases testosterone.

Basically, when you take a small step and win, your chance to win the next step increases.

In some cases, the result might be failure. But it does not matter. You completed a challenge, you learned from it- that matters the most. The next time you try the same challenge, you know what not to do.don't get comfortable

Once I danced inside a bus full of people. It was not a full-fledged bus but there was music playing outside and I liked the music. So, I danced a little. Girls laughed, I blushed. Nothing much.

“Do your duty without thinking about the result”- Sri Krishna, The Bhagavad Geeta.

 

 

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Consistency: How to be Consistent?

by with No Comment Life Changing SkillsPersonality DevelopmentSuccess Mindset

Why is consistency important?

Are you talented?

Do you work hard?

Even if you say ‘yes’ to those two above questions, you will fail without consistency.

Even if you say ‘no’ to those above questions, you will succeed with consistency.

Hard work beats talent. And consistency beats hard work.

I once came across a post on social media; it said `If you improve yourself 1% each day, at the end of the year, you will be 365% better than you were on day 1’. 

The point is, consistent development works as miracles.

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Consistency makes you attractive

I often ask people if they are talented; they say ‘no’. But they are also not willing to improve. They might start working after being motivated, and they might start with enthusiasm, but they often lose that mindset. From the previous chapter, you now know that when you have genuine interest in something, you will be self-motivated to achieve your goals. 

An example of consistency is Master-Blaster Sachin Tendulkar. Sachin and Vinod Kambli were both students of coach Ramakant Achrekar. Kambli is considered to be more talented than Sachin. But he lacked discipline. Sachin practised, practised and practised. He learned sustainably.

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I got my first job in 2016 in Ericsson. I had a hard time understanding the tasks given to me. I struggled daily. My manager was not very fond of me. But one day, he told me something useful. “You have to practise until you forget”.

I was too dumb to understand that at that time. Maybe now I can interpret it. When you practise, you improve yourself. The chance of you making an error keeps reducing. But you should not be too proud about it and stop practising, because then you will forget it.

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There are thousands of examples to prove that when you stop practising, you lose skills. A simple example can be gym. You start working out, lose fat, get shredded, then stop going to gym, enjoy life. After a few months, you feel that those abs are not looking the same as before. Your girlfriend compliments your blooming man-boobs saying they are ‘cute’. You lost that achievement when you stopped working out.

Be consistent with your destination, but feel free to change the path

Sometimes, it happens that you are not getting enough results even after being consistent. In that case, you need to change the process. Suppose you are doing social media marketing; you start with posting regularly on social media. A few followers visit and like your posts; not much improvements. You research and input better quality pictures, music and contents. If that does not work, you can try backlinking, showing ads, engaging with others to increase your chance to get more likes.

Here, you are being consistent with social media posting. You are passionate about becoming an influencer. Just, the process you are trying with, is changing. And that is ok. Consistent development towards the vision WILL give you success.

Toyota is a famous car manufacturer. They have two major principles. The first one is respecting people and the second one is ‘KAIZEN’. Kaizen means ’continuous improvement’ and Toyota uses it to improve the product quality, believing that that is always a better way.

Using this philosophy, Toyota improved its efficiency. They can assemble a car in under 3 minutes.

When you are consistent, you are more likely to do hard work easily. It basically means, when you are consistent, you become a smart worker. You build up routines and things which you thought to be harder before, you become fluent in those now.

When you are consistent, you don’t give excuses. You put your routine first. Humans are slave of routines, once you create your routine, it will be harder for you to change it. Think of it like sticking to your favourite brand. The routine becomes your favourite brand.

To start habits, you have to make commitments. Make a promise to someone you love. It can be yourself, your family or God too. And then don’t turn back from that promise.

And if you stop for some reason, restart. No one will tell you anything. Only your inner-self will tell you “Maybe you should not have stopped”. Take it as self-motivation.

When you make a routine, you also get out of your comfort zone. After some time, the routine becomes your comfort zone. Make sure that the routine is adding to your development.

 

How long does it take to be consistent?

Consistency is a journey. Not a destination.

It is said that if you do the same thing for 30 days, it will become a habit. It was 21 days previously, but new research says that you should do it for 30 days. Some researchers also say that it should be done for 66 days.

And it is ok to take breaks, but that break should not be too long. Otherwise, you will become too comfortable. 

How long does it take to break consistency?

When you are doing something regularly, you are actually programming your brain. When you stop doing that for more than 3 days, your brain will start reverse programming and that gained cognition will atrophy.

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Seriousness and sincerity- How to be sincere?

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Seriousness and sincerity

You are valued when you take up something and don’t give up on it. It can be your business idea, your relationships, your choice of dress for today’s party.

What’s the difference between seriousness and sincerity?

Sincerity and seriousness are two different things. Sincerity is when you do something with genuine enthusiasm, caution and awareness. Seriousness might indicate giving extra attention to something and that might make you non-spontaneous and reduce your creativity. So, maintain a balance.

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When you are serious and sincere, you concentrate more. Your mind gets less diverted. And in the last chapter, I already told you, when you do something with concentration, it gets done faster. It also gets done with less error (in most cases).

I have too many life stories where I am not serious and sincere. Major cases and minor cases. Once, my mother went to the laundry to give some clothes for dry cleaning. But the shop was closed, so she came back home and while returning, she also bought some mangoes.

After she came back, she asked me to get the mangoes out because the mangoes’ gum may ruin the clothes. I casually opened the bag, but did not see any mangoes… because they were under the clothes. And I just left the bag there, and did not care much about asking ‘where are those mangoes’ or simply checking under the clothes.

A couple days after, mother found out about the scene, the clothes were stained with gum and she was furious. I got a heavy scolding. She still nags me till date by saying I am never serious.

Sincerity is backed by awareness. What does a sincere student mean- someone who genuinely completes his lessons. Someone who is genuinely cautious about studying. Focus on the word- ‘genuine’ that I mentioned here; it is important. 

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Sincere apologies- is a popular phrase and it means genuine apologies, nothing fake. When you are sincere, you are not faking it.

Seriousness means emphasised sincerity and it might be overwhelming at times. It may make you obnoxious as well. But that is good at times. When you are obnoxiously serious about something good, you will do anything to achieve it.

“Agar kisi cheez ko dil se chaho … to poori kainath use tumse milane ki koshish mein lag jaati hai” – [“If you want something from your heart, then whole universe gets engaged to let you meet with that”- I guess Paulo Coelho said something like this in The Alchemist]

A good example can be finding your crush’s social media account. Your eyes will be glued to the mobile and your mother will come and say “If you were this serious about your studies, you would top in exams”. (I haven’t done this; I just gave an example). 

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I am writing this chapter sincerely, but not with too much seriousness. I am simply enthusiastic and spontaneous to make you understand with simple examples so that you can relate.

I am serious about making a good quality article. But also, I am adding things I have experienced in my life.

 

When is seriousness toxic?

On the other hand, there is toxic seriousness as well…. Do you remember that Hindi movie named ‘Darr’… the protagonist (or antagonist?) was too serious about the girl.

In a relationship, when you are too serious, you will become a control freak. In a relationship, you need to give each other personal space. Or else there will be suffocation.

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When you are too serious, it cages you …. Maybe it will give you something but may snatch some other things too. Be cautious.

You should be sincere, aware, genuinely interested to achieve something and spontaneous. When you are sincere, you will use time and money wisely and efficiently.

 

How to be a sincere person?

Sincere people are not told to do things, they take up responsibilities themselves.

If you are a good listener, you can be a sincere person. Often, the person you listen to- defines your sincerity. You may ignore one person and not listen and as a result, that person will not look up to you as a sincere person.

You might value another person more and listen to that person with more enthusiasm, then you will become sincere for that person. 

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You can be serious too, but within limits.

Some examples of limits can be- the effect of the seriousness on your health, relationships, mental state.

 

What’s the relationship between seriousness and passion?

Elon Musk says that he has worked for 22 hours, but it hurts his mind, brain and body. Though he has achieved many things, he often tells how he would not choose to be himself if given a chance. But, anyway, he chose to be serious with his work, to fulfil the purposes he has.

Also, he does not do things to get people to praise him. He does those to make himself satisfied. Doing good things without expecting to be rewarded- is a sign of sincerity.

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Another example can be Ratan Tata. He did not buy Air India to get praised. He has genuine interest in that airline due to emotional family reasons. JRD Tata had to let that brainchild go, as the Nehru government mandated the airlines to be centralised for the government’s profit.

Then, due to the government’s lack of management ability, the profitability of Air India kept reducing and there were too many debts. Ratan Tata bought the company along with all those debts.

It means that he has to pay for the errors done by other inefficient people. He chose this for genuine self-satisfaction, not for getting praised. This has another definition— Passion. 

Dr. Kalam once said “Dream is not something you see while sleeping, it is something that does not let you sleep”

It is true.

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Sincerity and controlled seriousness give you a success mindset, a vision and self-confidence that- you CAN do it. You don’t need anyone’s approval after that. You will be simply driven by your passion.

Just choose a passion that is fruitful and meaningful. Then grind.

 

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Learnability- How can you actually LEARN?

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Learnability- How to LEARN

Before you learn, you need to learn how to learn.

Learnability = The Ability to Learn

Maybe you are studying in school or college, or you are working.

Do you know the purpose of schools? Is it to mug up topics, compete with friends or get good marks?

NONE of these!!

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What is the purpose of learning?

The purpose of the schooling system is to actually teach you how to LEARN…. How to be a lifelong learner. 

But due to lack of proper guidance or knowledge of the authorities, that message is not passed onto the generations.

Don’t assume that I knew all these when I was in school or college. I was just running behind marks, I guess. I have learned more from the internet than textbooks.

Honestly, my decision to go for an international MBA will remain as my worst life-decision. I wasted my time, effort and money. So I hardly recommend people to go for a masters degree and I always tell them the disadvantages.

However, different people experience things differently, you may have a better experience than I had. It is true that many people lack practical knowledge. In the 21st century, learning has become easier more than ever, thanks to the internet. 

Learnability, how can I learn something easily 

Why do we learn what we learn?

Some of you study all year-long, some of you study before the exam nights. The results vary sometimes, other times the results are the same. But have you ever thought about how we learn? What is the process of learning? Why are you forced to learn?

In India, you are taught to learn to get marks and pass the exams— to say politely, this is the shittiest purpose of any major system. Not only in India, the same thing persists in many other countries.

What is the reason for such a system??… are you being prepared to NOT think critically or are you to blame yourself for not being able to crack the code?

Learnability, how can I learn something easily

In the traditional education and social system, they don’t teach you for your benefits. They teach you to remain a slave. Just think once- what type of advice they give you- study hard, get an education loan, get into college, get a job, repay the education loan, then get a mortgage to build a house, then pay that loan for 20 years.

You have to pay bills, taxes and everything from your money. If you are working hard to only make others rich, and you don’t have any issue with that- then YOU are the issue for yourself. 

and often, the people who say ‘if you study in college and get a job in MNC, you will be settled and rich’- they are victims of poverty. It is like that frog that stays inside a well and looks up and can only see a little piece of the sky and thinks ‘this is the limited world’. Don’t trust blindly. 

DON’T take advice about money from poor people. Learn from bonafide people, ask questions to yourself and whatever you have learned in your life. Wake up to get out of the matrix!! 

Learnability, how can someone learn something easily

I once took a coaching for IES (Indian Engineering Services) and in that coaching, one teacher told us the purpose of reading history…. Can you guess the reason why history is included in your syllabus? From history, we learn the mistakes that have been done before; so that the same mistakes are not repeated again.

It is about the concepts. I don’t consider myself as a good learner from this viewpoint.

Often in life you will learn real knowledge late, but it’s ok. Keep learning. Learn a way to use that knowledge for your benefit, for everyone’s benefit. I am trying to be a better learner.

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How to learn efficiently?

The best way to learn is to admit that you don’t know. Let yourself feel like an idiot while learning. Ask someone who knows, there is no shame in it. Rather it makes you attractive.

If you don’t know something, you will try to justify something with a biased mentality.

And then you will probably fail. This is why businesses perform market testing to know the needs, demands and reality of the consumers. Then they fool-proof their plan to achieve success. Though market tests are not perfect, it gives the right direction.

Learnability, how to learn something easily

A simple example is that I am generally repelled by detective stories. When I was quite young, I read a few detective stories and did not like the suspense and slow grinding.

I have developed a dislike since then and I developed a bias that all detective stories are boring, based on only a few stories which I did not understand when I was in primary school. But then a few years ago, I read ‘Byomkesh’ by Sharadindu Bandyopadhayay.

It is one of the top detective stories available in Bengali language and many movies and series have been produced based on the stories. I quite liked reading it as I was more mature than when I was in primary school.

But still, I would prefer other genres to detective stories and the bias remains that unless the author is renowned, the stories will definitely be boring. Which is most probably wrong to conclude.

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How can learning increase success rate?

Bill Gates dropped out of university to work on Microsoft. But before that he did a good amount of market research to be sure that he will earn profit from that and the Microsoft products will be in demand.

Learnability, how can you learn something easily

You might have heard advice like- “don’t leave your job to work on your start-ups until your start-up can cover your expenses”; this is partially true but you have to analyse critically. Multiple income sources are required to make money. Risk-aversion and calculated risk-taking will help you to get mental peace and confidence. So, if you know more and learn more, you can tackle risks better. 

 

The best learners do not have pride

If you are an adult, you might be too proud to learn new things. Pride is harmful, it will make you look foolish unless you have a good personality. And even if you have a good personality, you will remain a fool cloaked by just the personality. It is better for you to keep your pride in your pocket and keep learning.

There are 4 types of people in the world-

  1. The ones who don’t know that they don’t know- they are called ‘fools’
  2. The ones who don’t know that they know- they are dormant
  3. The ones who know that they don’t know- they are simple
  4. The ones who know that they know- they are called ‘wise’

You need to ask yourself which one you are and then set a goal to reach the last type mentioned above.

Learnability, how can you learn something easily 

What’s the secret to learn faster- Secret 1

Some factors to know your ‘learnability’ is to know how fast and how easily you can learn something. Swami Vivekananda is an Indian spirituality, who’s birthday is celebrated as the World Youth Day (12th January). Swamiji could just turn 700 pages and learn within a few seconds.

Learnability, how can I learn

700 pages!! At one go!!! …… I can’t even remember 1 page properly when I read textbooks (not that I would really really want to)

The secret is to have a focused mind and concentration. When you are learning anything…. Be it your calculus or be it how to tie your shoelaces, you need to focus. The more you focus, the faster you will learn.

 

How can learning help you in daily life?

Learnability will help you in any place of your life. In your office, your boss needs you to learn things fast, so that you can perform and contribute to the company’s development.

In businesses, they are integrating machine learning technologies because they learn faster and contribute without error. If you keep asking your boss to check your work every time and he finds errors in that, the trustworthiness reduces, Next time, he may hesitate to give you responsibility and this makes you more replaceable. 

Your partner wants you to learn what she likes and dislikes, so that you bring gifts he or she will like. If you don’t learn, you will have a fight. Learning about others’ nature, helps you to manipulate and persuade them. As you learn more, your awareness increases. It can also be that you learned by getting pain- even that is a type of learning that builds your personality. 

 

What’s the secret to learn faster- Secret 2

First principle method is the best way to learn something. It says that in order to understand something truly, you have to understand the fundamental things in it. 

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As an example, I once tried to understand how Lithium-ion batteries are manufactured. For that I broke down the components of a battery- metal body, cathode, anode, electrolytes, lithium, separator film, insulator film etc.

Then I tried to find out the materials of these items- like Anode can be made of graphite or graphene, a form of carbon. Cathode can be oxides of Lithium. By doing this, I understood the manufacturing process to some extent.

From a business perspective, you can break down an element like this and identify the costs of each separate element. And as you know, when you manufacture things, the manufacturing cost is much less than the cost of the ultimate product’s cost.

This is how Elon Musk bought raw materials directly and manufactured batteries to reduce the cost of EVs.

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